The daughters were not bothered at all. They knew it was going to happen and said Christmas was about being with each other, not the gifts (do I really get credit for the marvelous women?) But I was bothered. AND IT'S NOT GOING DOWN THIS WAY NEXT YEAR.
I've gone over it in my head and wondered if maybe I hated it because it was different. But that wasn't it. I wondered if it was because Baby M wasn't here for her first Christmas. While I missed her terribly, that wasn't it either. I wondered if it was because only two of the lovelies were here. But that wasn't it. That was different and quieter but we had such fun! I wondered if it was because the other parent didn't pick up the slack. Nope, I should have expected that. What was it then?
It all goes back to me being an overachiever when it comes to gift giving and the fact I couldn't support that tendency. Next year WILL be different. I'll be ready. I'll work towards it all year long.
Some of the things I learned:
- When watching Christmas movies and the focus they showed on opening gifts, I now know that our focus truly has been wrong and we need to change that.
- I do not need to receive gifts but I do need to give them.
- Having only 2 daughters here is not a bad thing, it's just a different thing.
- We are a fun bunch and can laugh at just about any situation regardless of how many of us are present.
- My daughters are incredible women (Ok, I already knew this)
- When we don't have the gifts to open, we focus more on each other in conversation/game playing, etc.
- It's easier to focus on the true meaning of the season without gifting or, rather, an overly passionate focus on gifting.
- I could have at least done stockings.
- I feel terrible but everyone else is fine.
- I'm not going to do this again but we will take it down to one handmade gift, one bought gift, and stockings.
- I now have a new perspective on those who cannot give gifts to their children at Christmas and they will be part of our new focus.
- No matter what, it was good that we did give to the older family members and Baby M. Oh, and Tucker did get his stocking.
- I am too focused on gift-giving.
- Going cold turkey on this idea was a bad idea.
I told them I hadn't put the pickle on the tree because there was no pickle prize.
|Yes, the cupcake plate WAS full at one point. Ha! They came from Nothing Bundt Cake and they were delicious!|
All this AND, our celebrations are not over. The MIA daughters and their SOs will be here tomorrow and we continue celebrating the season all the way through January 1, 2017! And I will try my best not to be bothered by the lack of gifts. The girls bought sister gifts and we will give gifts to the older folks and Baby M needs to finish opening her gifts. Mostly, I'll try to learn from my daughters that it's being together that matters. Not whether or not mom bought a gazillion gifts.
Did I mention that my daughters are incredible women? :)
OH, the pickle WILL be on the tree by Wednesday morning when everyone is here and there is equal opportunity. There will also be the gift card game. More about that later in the week.
No matter what or where I hope y'all had a most wonderful Christmas celebration!