tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post1785245223974355889..comments2023-10-17T08:29:42.738-04:00Comments on Empty Nest: Misleading ThoughtsEmpty Nesterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-49818548685201087952012-05-20T17:48:48.738-04:002012-05-20T17:48:48.738-04:00My sister mastered this about twenty years ago. Sh...My sister mastered this about twenty years ago. She's one of the nicest, stress free people you'd ever want to meet. She always puts a kind and generous light on things, so she's awesome to spend time with. By comparison, I realize how negative I can be. I guess I need to do what you're doing. I know Wendell has to!Patricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09073900183291544491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-39296785440962719662012-05-20T13:55:08.057-04:002012-05-20T13:55:08.057-04:00Crikey, that was interesting. What on earth prompt...Crikey, that was interesting. What on earth prompted you to work on your thought processes in such an regimented way?Annie (Lady M) xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00086309578820420578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-28916788620771354512012-05-20T07:24:24.759-04:002012-05-20T07:24:24.759-04:00Lisa- I do that too. I'm trying my best to com...Lisa- I do that too. I'm trying my best to completely surround myself with positivity! It's like a big project! LOL Thanks!Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-89459433794426605962012-05-20T05:56:35.413-04:002012-05-20T05:56:35.413-04:00I like to read quotes that help me through those n...I like to read quotes that help me through those negative thoughts. I like to post them on my wall as well. And I try to avoid negative people, so they don't drain you. Love your new blog look too!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13391790144332383648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-48205500367433224182012-05-19T20:14:47.076-04:002012-05-19T20:14:47.076-04:00Mimi- It's much easier to be positive on the b...Mimi- It's much easier to be positive on the blog than in real life I guess. :) Glad you find it positive! Thanks!Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-69891558663712185042012-05-19T18:48:08.448-04:002012-05-19T18:48:08.448-04:00Amy- The little exercise I've been trying is w...Amy- The little exercise I've been trying is working for me. I've got those negative thoughts stopped before they get out of control. But that book sounds like it's worth checking out! <br /><br />Lucy- Yes, I know exactly what you mean. And I guess I'm kind of a mixture. But hubs? He's Negative Nate all the time- mostly because of his family- and it's getting on my last Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-25076135674017090362012-05-19T18:45:47.726-04:002012-05-19T18:45:47.726-04:00I like Stephanie's idea!
I think you've be...I like Stephanie's idea!<br />I think you've been very positive (at least since I started following your blog...ah, maybe that's the key!!), and I like your idea of focusing on the thought and changing it around. As Louise Hay says "it's only a thought and a thought can be changed". Like your new blog look!Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08100985140335023467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-57440678434906427972012-05-19T18:33:06.972-04:002012-05-19T18:33:06.972-04:00I don't like to hang with 'Negative Nancy&...I don't like to hang with 'Negative Nancy' all the time and if someone is constantly whining or always negative, I limit my interaction but to be honest, 'Positive Patty' gets on my nerves too. Meaning, I like a balance. You know, sometimes, you just got to get something off your chest and then move on, I think that is the key, not belaboring or wallowing in the negative :)Lucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14795342448811764481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-80767685173514365202012-05-19T18:14:59.542-04:002012-05-19T18:14:59.542-04:00I also tend to be negative and it stinks! A friend...I also tend to be negative and it stinks! A friend suggested I read What If It All Goes Right. Great book about 'uping' your what if's. I started with small things and before too long I was able to stop that stinkin thinkin before it got too far out of control.<br />I would avoid that snake, too!AJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03212012045900798974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-41599638798775771752012-05-19T17:41:27.307-04:002012-05-19T17:41:27.307-04:00Cathy- Thank you. I feel like I’ll be working on i...Cathy- Thank you. I feel like I’ll be working on it for some time. But any improvement is good. It’s definitely worth the effort! <br /><br />MMS- It takes a lot of work for me too. But with others, I tend to either attack them or let their negativity over take me. Either way is not good. Amen to never giving up!<br /><br />Kim- That’s one thing we don’t have in common- I’m married to Mr NegativeEmpty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-41253796603094121132012-05-19T17:11:07.859-04:002012-05-19T17:11:07.859-04:00i have been keeping songs and bible verses in my h...i have been keeping songs and bible verses in my head, to go to when the negativity shows up--and it helps!Lynn Proctorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16349867270815243053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-83573489439490786832012-05-19T16:12:45.345-04:002012-05-19T16:12:45.345-04:00I think your process is exactly right...I would no...I think your process is exactly right...I would not be going over to the pump if there were a snake over there...it is better for both my and the snakes future! <br /><br />I have to guard myself against negative influences and that is one of the hardest lessons to teach my children as well!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15600433643318115707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-45032571748877829242012-05-19T15:09:32.004-04:002012-05-19T15:09:32.004-04:00I agree that we are all happier when we are able t...I agree that we are all happier when we are able to focus on the positive. And surround ourselves with people who do. Negativity sucks energy.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-52745376961040385532012-05-19T14:12:59.330-04:002012-05-19T14:12:59.330-04:00It's not easy. The mind can be hard to control...It's not easy. The mind can be hard to control. Our daughter has OCD/BDD and spent time in therapy. It's congnitive behavioral thinking. It is very hard to oversome. She has not been able to master it but still works very hard at it. Wishing you success.Debby@Just Breathehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685398064340027809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-8184601310845241662012-05-19T11:55:28.324-04:002012-05-19T11:55:28.324-04:00This is a process and some days it's harder, s...This is a process and some days it's harder, some days easier. I took a course on this same subject matter and it helped me a lot, but too many times we/I just let myself slide back into old behaviors. It's like weight loss and bad eating....all you can do, is get up and try again.Betty Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02357132033070346815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-10851374398350240772012-05-19T11:37:12.801-04:002012-05-19T11:37:12.801-04:00You can just hang out with all us bloggers...we...You can just hang out with all us bloggers...we're a pretty positive bunch :)<br /><br />I admire your focus, Pam. You'll make 150 - easy!Stephanie Vhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03206167025245206754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-77008821565452084602012-05-19T11:34:04.605-04:002012-05-19T11:34:04.605-04:00Every time I read one of your posts, I learn somet...Every time I read one of your posts, I learn something new! This, for me, is one of your best because it talks to me! <br />I need to focus on the positive because the negative thoughts drag me down into a funk that is unbearable.<br /><br />I will try your suggestion on turning a negative thought into a positive for the next few days. Hopefully, I will see a change!Shawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11410609940311482746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-59078973405168485272012-05-19T11:21:25.716-04:002012-05-19T11:21:25.716-04:00That is a good question. I don't know if I kee...That is a good question. I don't know if I keep in contact much anymore with rain cloud people. <br />I hate it so much about myself and when I get that way, I really try to not do it. Being married to Mr.Positive helps so much. He can always find something good to focus on and I think that has helped me so much. Exercise is really the best way to keep my attitude in a good place, not to Farm Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00998621464797636686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-86631462371046472322012-05-19T10:45:38.653-04:002012-05-19T10:45:38.653-04:00It takes a lot of work - for me, anyway - to chang...It takes a lot of work - for me, anyway - to change that thought process. Sometimes I give myself permission to just be cranky and grumpy - but only for a little while and then I feel better and can get back to being positive. :)<br /><br />As for others' negativity - I struggle with that. I let it get to me more than I'd like...<br /><br />It's all a process and even though it's Madeline Mora-Summontehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05529397293165046430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-67640056943881000282012-05-19T09:58:36.524-04:002012-05-19T09:58:36.524-04:00This is a great post. I need to work on this too....This is a great post. I need to work on this too. I know negative thoughts are not good, but I think I've been there quite a bit lately. So my positive thought for today is that I'm going to try (just for today) to be more positive and squash those negative thoughts. Then maybe tomorrow I'll do it again.!<br /><br />Thanks for the reminder.Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04662751045378148853noreply@blogger.com