tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post6974563709973396878..comments2023-10-17T08:29:42.738-04:00Comments on Empty Nest: Connecting with Adult ChildrenEmpty Nesterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-46579240183985766462018-09-14T15:04:25.857-04:002018-09-14T15:04:25.857-04:00We do have to let them be an adult and make their ...We do have to let them be an adult and make their own decisions (as hard as that may be for some parents) but that's part of becoming an adult and being on their own. I'm happy to say that I get to communicate with my kids almost daily either via a phone call, text, or FaceTime ♥Dee | GrammysGrid.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16444651579536459274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-16844125092578592912018-08-14T08:59:06.826-04:002018-08-14T08:59:06.826-04:00I'm not sure since I don't have boys but I...I'm not sure since I don't have boys but I've heard both ways from moms of boys. My parents never had as close a relationship with any of my 3 brothers as they did/do with me. My brothers tend to make their wives a first priority at the expense of a solid relationship with us but I envy that because I have one who puts his family way above me and the girls. I don't know. Let go Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-80903469716118140212018-08-14T08:54:34.932-04:002018-08-14T08:54:34.932-04:00Good one! I've always done that with my kids a...Good one! I've always done that with my kids and was never afraid to say, "I don't know" when I didn't have an answer. I think I assumed everyone did that with their kids. Ooops! :) Yep, that listening this is not the easiest one. We always seem to want to open up about our own experience or give our advice. I think that's human nature. I know it's hard to overcome. Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-90628403848417179602018-08-12T09:11:13.029-04:002018-08-12T09:11:13.029-04:00I am so envious when I hear about how great parent...I am so envious when I hear about how great parents get along with ALL of their adult children. :) I wonder if part of it is a boys vs. girls thing. Anyway, bottom line: let go and let God handle it! :)<br />Thank you so much for sharing the link to my post! The Not So Perfect Catholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07638381875389441358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-20549484530294830162018-08-12T08:34:35.667-04:002018-08-12T08:34:35.667-04:00This is excellent advice. But I would add one more...This is excellent advice. But I would add one more. Apologize when you have done something wrong. A few years back My daughter confided in me and instead of just listening, I empathized and told her I'd felt the same way. Well, she didn't need to know about me, she needed the love and support of her mother.<br />I wrote her a long text message apologizing, and telling her exactly how I&#Maribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17435726542598515305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-26339110119804896612018-08-10T17:55:40.597-04:002018-08-10T17:55:40.597-04:00You're so right about making assumptions. I ha...You're so right about making assumptions. I have the easiest time with the under 5 group. LOLEmpty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-35971119197922100812018-08-09T17:06:14.896-04:002018-08-09T17:06:14.896-04:00"...we don't live their lives so I won..."...we don't live their lives so I won't make any assumptions as to why so many parents have difficulty connecting with their adult children." Yes making assumptions often make matters worse. I've heard of relationships much worse than mine and apparently (can't always tell what's going on behind the scenes - nor do I need to know) many better. I do seem to have an Bill Lislemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15187273560129198423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-33670263602307831802018-08-09T12:34:15.906-04:002018-08-09T12:34:15.906-04:00Thank you! No, it isn't easy not being the bos...Thank you! No, it isn't easy not being the boss anymore especially now since we've packed on a couple decades of wisdom. :)Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-37564079518109233872018-08-09T12:33:09.828-04:002018-08-09T12:33:09.828-04:00We really are and I'm realizing it even more t...We really are and I'm realizing it even more these days. It's hard not seeing Claudia as often as I do the other girls but at least we have texting and calling, etc. I can't imagine not having any of this like our parents did (didn't) back in the day. Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-29048965720480162492018-08-09T11:09:23.454-04:002018-08-09T11:09:23.454-04:00I feel like we have a great relationship with our ...I feel like we have a great relationship with our children. I love your advice! It isn't easy not being the boss anymore but I manage pretty well at keeping my mouth shut. Debby@Just Breathehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685398064340027809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-70947943117529922382018-08-08T19:48:19.702-04:002018-08-08T19:48:19.702-04:00You and your lovelies are all so blessed!! Maybe i...You and your lovelies are all so blessed!! Maybe it's a little different with girls. Our 'boys' are both in their 50s now. It has been at least three months since we talked with Jeff (youngest). We have texted a few times. Joey is in Kuwait for a year but we talk with him every two weeks and his wife just called two days ago. We miss them. My heart aches to see them (and they are my Terri Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15333024343069943295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-69307508701142158062018-08-08T13:31:50.310-04:002018-08-08T13:31:50.310-04:00It is a real blessing for sure. I have the same wi...It is a real blessing for sure. I have the same with my girls and had it with my mom. Don't you love TouchNote? My auntie and dad/stepmom LOVE getting them in the mail. :)Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-6446990943014668322018-08-08T13:30:48.338-04:002018-08-08T13:30:48.338-04:00Goodness, you are so kind! Thank you so much!Goodness, you are so kind! Thank you so much!Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-79054590575870079862018-08-08T11:58:59.281-04:002018-08-08T11:58:59.281-04:00Great advice you have given, Pam. I agree with al...Great advice you have given, Pam. I agree with all of it, and I also use the TouchNote App. I’m blessed with my girls, and my mum and I were very close too. That’s a real blessing, right? Southhamsdarlinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12285980805569582676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-28130297308194145972018-08-08T10:25:29.759-04:002018-08-08T10:25:29.759-04:00Oh, my goodness! All of the above! Sooo good!Oh, my goodness! All of the above! Sooo good!Diane Stringam Tolleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09629946536985545457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-21085974644731441442018-08-08T09:27:42.384-04:002018-08-08T09:27:42.384-04:00I hope you like TouchNote. I just sent another pos...I hope you like TouchNote. I just sent another postcard last night and the family is loving them. I'm like you, I'll take whatever I can get with the one who lives far away. Fortunately, she prefers time with her mama. :) I'm pretty good about giving advice only when asked for except where the grandbabies are concerned. Can't seem to keep a lid on it then. LOL Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-49874931754779303222018-08-08T09:24:45.791-04:002018-08-08T09:24:45.791-04:00You're right. I know a similar situation where...You're right. I know a similar situation where the son and his wife live right next door to his mother but won't do a darn thing for her which makes those living an hour and more away come to town to help the mother who is in her 80s. The wife says it's the family's fault because they never made her feel welcome but I know they are always included in every single family event. I Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-81584839273009533112018-08-08T09:00:00.453-04:002018-08-08T09:00:00.453-04:00Pam, I really enjoyed this post. You have some re...Pam, I really enjoyed this post. You have some really good ideas. I'm downloading that TouchNote App right now to look at. My oldest daughter came in last weekend for a visit and to attend a wedding. It was so fun being together after almost 2 years without seeing each other in person. Fortunately we do text, call, video chat and Marco Polo, which all help us keep up on each other's Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04662751045378148853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2600608370084874699.post-30451435495704044112018-08-08T07:16:05.825-04:002018-08-08T07:16:05.825-04:00That is some awesome advice! Sometimes, though, no...That is some awesome advice! Sometimes, though, no matter what you do the disconnect is there. With our son, the problem (I hate to say it) seems to be his wife. She decided within minutes of meeting me that she didn't like me. Add to that her life before our son was very different from ours. She kind of views us as racist, right-wing, gun-toting, religious wackos. She's made it clear sheStacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316595488903619354noreply@blogger.com