Monday, November 3, 2014

Monday Memories: My First Friend

Hey, y'all! Monday may bring us back to work, but it also brings us one of my favorite memes and it's all about sharing memories! Y'all know how much I appreciate memories so you can imagine how excited I was to hear of a meme all about writing our memories! I, of course, missed the first one but I'm just going to combine the first and second memories together in this post.

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Retired Not Tired Memory Monday


This week's prompt is: My First Friend

My first friend was Cynthia and we were friends all through elementary school. And maybe even part of junior high. After that, my family moved to a different town (WORST move EVER) and we lost touch. I doubt we would have remained friends anyway.

Cynthia was one of only two rich kids I've ever liked. I think that can be attributed to the fact that we were so young. And, I'm not really sure whether she was a true 'rich' kid or that her mother was a rich lady wanna be so there were pretenses. Anyway... her house looked something like this one. This house is actually one from her neighborhood. It might even have been hers. Grammar school was a long time ago, people.



Cynthia was the oldest of four and the big sister of three little brothers. I rarely saw her mother when I was around their house but their maid was always there. I never could figure out why that woman needed a maid. Even after all these years, I don't get it. I raised four daughters and never needed a maid. I know people who have 6 and 10 children who have never had a maid. So I'm thinking rich or pretense.

I remember that her dad owned the hardware store in town and that they attended the Presbyterian Church. I remember that her mother had dark brown or black hair and was short and that her dad had blonde hair and was tall and burly. Of course, these are the visions of the memories of someone who is nowhere near young now. Cynthia was built more like her mother with her dad's coloring. Her mother never struck me as a loving, kind woman. I remember her as always yelling whenever she walked in the door and I don't recall a single time she greeted any of her children warmly. At least not while I was there. Her dad, I didn't know very well either but he always struck me as kind.

I don't remember when I met Cynthia but I do remember that I liked her. She was fun to hang out with and her brothers were not as bothersome as some brothers can be. We had sleepovers and fun times spending afternoons together. I think I spent more time at her house than she did at mine. Probably because my mother worked outside the home.

The main thing I remember about Cynthia was the day that my family adopted three biological brothers, she was there. Well, technically, I was at her house and she and I were waiting on the call from my parents that my new brothers would be home soon. Cynthia was great about sharing her thoughts and feelings about being a big sister. She also gave some good advice about being a big sister.

That is probably the last time I have a memory of Cynthia. I'm pretty sure her mother had grand plans for her. I can see those plans including being sent to college in search of a husband. I went to college in search of further education. And a party or two. Ha! And then there's the fact that I have no idea whether or not Cynthia went to college or married or anything. I'll have to check with my dad or my cousin.

I remember other friends too, but Cynthia was the first one and the best one. At least for a while.

13 comments:

  1. Looks like a nice place to live. Sounds like you and Cynthia had a good friendship thing going there. I loved sleepovers and remember we always went in pairs to whichever parent to be sure they wouldn't say no. :-) I never knew anybody as I was growing up who had a maid. Only on TV. Remember Hazel?

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    1. I do remember Hazel. LOL I didn't know anyone else with a maid. Just Cynthia's family. She was a sweet girl. I'll have to look her up and see how her life turned out.

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  2. Thank you for sharing your friendship with Cynthia. I remember having a few friends who went to college in hopes of meeting a doctor and getting married!

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    1. I didn't know anyone personally who went for that reason. Though there was this one girl whose parents sent her to college to meet a husband because, as they said, she wasn't smart enough to live on her own. Yeah, idiots. She was great.

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  3. Your friendship sounds interesting. Growing up when there is a money difference can be hard because some of the values are not the same. Thank you for joining my meme.

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    1. There really was no noticeable money difference between us- except for her mother and that maid. LOL Otherwise, we were all the same. I love this meme and I'm so glad you told me about and that you host it for us each week!

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  4. Oh this was interesting and it made me think of my first friend as a child well the first one I can remember Stacey the first friend was a boy named Darren but I don't really remember him Stacey I do remember I spent a lot of time at her house haven't seen her in years

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    1. This meme is wonderful. We walk down memory lane every Monday. You should give it a go!

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  5. You have some great memories about your first friend. I know you read my blog, so you know I remember Linda, but sure don't have many memories of things we did, at all. I would love to reconnect with my first friend, just to find out where she is and if she remembers me. It was a long, long time ago, though. Good memories, just the same. Great post!

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    1. I have discovered that she lives in the big city near our small town. I'm thinking of getting in touch soon. Are y'all cold down there in Florida?

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  6. Wow - that would be a nice place to have sleepovers!! I could definitely hang out there after school every day.
    Growing up, I was firmly planted on the wrong side of the tracks -- like literally, there were railway tracks down from my house. All my friends growing up were pretty much the same. When we first moved, it was a little bit more middle class, since it was no longer a single mom household. But university, most of my friends were wealthy. And I mean Stinking Frickin Rich. You could sit this house here INSIDE their mansions. And yes, they had maids and cooks and even some had chauffeurs. I remember teaching the 4 girls I roomed with how to do dishes, laundry, clean a bathroom -- even make a bed!! 19 years old and they didn't know a thing! Forget about cooking. I became den mother basically. LOL
    But you know, they were all basically good people and we had lots of fun teaching and learning... and laughing.

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    1. Cynthia and I were on either side of the tracks. The tracks went right through the middle of town. But, the 'wrong side of the tracks' kids lived way further on the other side than I. And I had a lot of friends from way on the other side. But my mother didn't like that very much. But the filthy rich kids would never have hung with any of us. LOL

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  7. Isn't it funny how friends come in and out of your life?! My twin sister and I have best friends that are twins. We met them in the 3rd grade and now 38 years later, we are still friends. Although they are actually a bit too close for twins. They both married, and divorced, it was hard for them to compromise, it was their way or the highway - sometimes some of the stories they tell I am like "would I be friends with this person if I met her as an adult?!" But we have so much history. And now they live three doors down from each other!

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