Wednesday, May 23, 2018

A Royal Hodgepodge

It's Hodgepodge day or Wednesday, whichever you prefer. I like, Hodgepodge day because it's fun and all the Hodgepodgers always have such fun and interesting Hodgepodge posts to read and enjoy. Let's get to it! Oh, I may have gone off on a tangent vent of sorts in the random thought but that's what random is all about, right? Ha!

From this Side of the Pond

1. The last place you visited/patronized where you felt like you were given 'the royal treatment'? I feel like I give the royal treatment rather than receive it. I'm not comfortable being treated like royalty but I do like to dote on others. I will say, however, my girls do a good job of trying to give me the royal treatment and would probably appreciate it if I would just relax and let them. LOL

2. The last task you completed that was a 'royal pain'? Well, I got the probate process started so that was fun. Ha!

3. How have your strengths helped you succeed? I have strengths in dedication, persistence, diligence which have helped me go strong and not give up. I have a creative streak as well which helps. How have your faults hindered you? Suffice it to say, I am my own worse enemy. 

4. If you found a remote that could rewind, fast forward, stop and start time, what would you do with it? Rewind and then hope it had a slow forward on it. 

5. Any special plans for the Memorial Day weekend? Just working on packing up Mother's things. Will you in some way honor or recognize the meaning of this day (remembering people who died in service to their country)? Probably not unless my brother who lives next door to Mother's house hosts a cookout or his wife who is one of the best cooks in the world cooks for us...HINT HINT. Have you ever been to Arlington National Cemetery? Yes. Does your town do anything special to mark the day? I think they do something at Patriot's Point. 

6.  Insert your own random thought here. After jumping through some probate hoops yesterday I barely have a thought of any kind rolling around up there. And I thought this was going to be easy. HA. Double HA. H.A. 

I did watch the royal wedding and I loved it. My favorite part was Bishop Curry's sermon. I know those Brits never 'had church' up in there before. I thought Oprah was about to get the Holy Spirit but she was able to keep it to a bit of gentle swaying. ;)

What a wedding it was and this is from someone who doesn't love weddings. I still believe weddings and funerals are a big racket for people to make money. But y'all have heard me say all that before so I'll move on. 
Have y'all heard the news about one of our super tall bridges? The Wando bridge? First, let me say for 4-6 months I've been waking up at night freaking out about that bridge for some reason. I had visions of falling off along with others driving on it. A couple weeks ago, the DOT shut the Wando bridge down because one of the supporting cables BROKE. Thaaaat's right. Looks like my intuition is still intact, unlike the bridge. Ha! If you think traffic was bad down here before...

I won't even go into all that is wrong with this whole thing from the actual building of the bridge to the breaking of the cable to what they're thinking about doing next because ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME?! It cost $32 million to build and opened in 1991 and was only supposed to last 50 years. Yeah, didn't make it. So they're going to open it back up in 4 weeks with a TEMPORARY fix. Meanwhile, they've opened the eastbound side to 2-way traffic which is STUPID just think about the Grace bridge and the tragedies that happened on it from time to time. And do we even need to discuss the costly repairs they had to make on it when the bridge was only 4 years old??? 

Lord help us all as we continue to be duped by the DOT and local officials. 

Guess I had a random thought or two rattling around after all. 

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Wednesday, May 16, 2018

A Challenging Hodgepodge

It's been a long week since the last Hodgepodge, y'all. We lost Mother last Wednesday night. We thought she was going to rally back which she did twice but then I guess it just got to be too much. Anyway, it's nice to have the Hodgepodge for a bit of a diversion. 

From this Side of the Pond

1. What would you say is your biggest day to day challenge? After this past week, it's going to be learning how to get through each day for a while at least. 

2. May 16th is National Biographers Day. What's a biography you really enjoyed reading? There's not a biography I haven't enjoyed. They're one of my favorite genres.  Is this a genre you read regularly? Fairly regularly. I do enjoy biographies. 

3. How important is keeping a clean house? I much prefer a clean house but I don't go nuts over. Ok, not too nuts. Do you need to de-clutter your life? I've been doing this for quite some time. It's not easy to declutter 30 years worth of stuff. I could stand to declutter some people, too. 

4. You're the 8th dwarf. What's your name? Dubious.  

5. What's surprised you the most about your life or life in general? That I'm still living it as I am. 

6. Insert your own random thought here. Some of you already knew we had to say goodbye to Mother which y'all can read about HERE but don't worry, I kept it as positive as I could over the weekend which made Mother's Day not so much fun. The lovelies were all there and that certainly made the last week so much easier. 

Life is hard sometimes. 

Sunday, May 13, 2018

When Mother's Day Takes a Wrong Turn

Mother's Day is certainly a good day for family gatherings and visiting, sharing, laughing... Our family has been known to do this on Mother's Day and other special days as well, and we look forward to these times, especially when we can all be together. Except when that special day takes a wrong turn. Which Mother's Day did for us this year.

Most of you might remember that Mother lived with me for 4 months last year, and we got her right back to her independent state, and she was able to go back home, which is what she wanted to do. In the last month, and particularly the last few weeks, her health decided to decline and on Wednesday, May 9, 2018 she was called home. We celebrated her life yesterday and got smacked in the face with Mother's Day today.

Not exactly the way we wanted to spend Mother's Day weekend. Not even close.

Instead of focusing on the sad side I want to share the upside of the weekend, because there were upsides and because that's the way she would have wanted this post to go.

The upsides of saying goodbye on Mother's Day weekend:

  1. The reminiscing. And did we ever reminisce.  For hours. Talk about something being therapeutic goodness but that's exactly what all our reminiscing did for us. It didn't matter if a tale someone told was one we'd heard one thousand times before we laughed like it was the first time. We remembered and shared and laughed til we cried tears of joy/sorrow if you know what I mean. Mostly joyful tears because we got to be her family. 
  2. Family members reunited. How does it happen sometimes that family members become estranged? I don't know, life happens and BAM. Yes, it's sad it takes something like this to bring folks around but instead of focusing on the why we chose to focus on the joy of the reconnecting. And now those who have drifted away are back in the fold. 
  3. Visiting with extended family. Have I mentioned that Mother's side of the family is rather large? I've written about our family reunions in the past but a family funeral is almost like a family reunion because everyone who can come, comes and we talk and share tales and laugh like crazy people and we surround one another the kind of love I would hate to have lived my life without. Mother LOVED that extended family and they LOVED her. So do we. Family is better than anything. Even when they're crazy. Which we are but we like it that way.
  4. You realize it's not the day but the times that make life special and dear and you are extremely grateful for the time you were allowed to have with your mother and even though she's gone she instilled life lessons to get you through in good times and bad. 
It's a short list because even when you choose to focus on the positives you still had to deal with saying goodbye to your Mother on Mother's Day weekend and it is not pleasant. 

I did love having everyone together. You feel you can survive anything when all your babies and their babies are with you at the same time.

And you know your mother would love watching the youngest member of the family get a drum lesson from his Uncle DrummerBoy--

And become a Wild Feathers fan ---

And get dressed up for the farewell---

And she most definitely would have enjoyed our laughter because tears are to be shed for only a moment and laughter every day. 

Farewell, Mimi, we will carry your legacy of standing tall and strong, of putting family first, of loving to our fullest, of being fiercely supportive of one another, of fighting against social injustices, of finding a reason to laugh in every situation, of that strong work ethic, of putting others ahead of ourselves, of not noticing the color of a person's skin, of being loyal and trustworthy, of always learning something new, of always finding the good in others proudly forward:

Mother (left) and Aunt Betty

Mother and me

Wednesday, May 9, 2018

Mother and Child Hodgepodge

It's been way hot down here lately but we all knew it was coming, didn't we? It's the thing I've been dreading but it's all good because one thing I do not dread is the Hodgepodge and it's here! Happy Mother's Day to all you moms out there! I hope everyone has a wonderful time planned with family and/or friends! 

From this Side of the Pond

1. What are your ingredients for a perfect Saturday? First, it has to be football season...unless the grands are in the house because any day with one of them in the house is a perfect day. 

2. What skill do you wish more people took the time to learn? How to be polite? Kind? Manners? 

3. What's something you ate as a child you can't stand now as an adult? Actually, a lot of things fall into this category and I can't think of one specific thing. I do know that in the last couple of years I've tried things I liked when I was a kid and wondered why in the world I thought it was so good. 

4. Something parenting has taught you? Go with the flow. If you're not a parent tell us one important lesson you learned from your own parents. I am a parent but I'll answer this part, too. My parents taught me not to pay attention to skin color and I will be forever grateful for that. 

5. Share a favorite quote or saying about mothers or motherhood. 

6. Insert your own random thought here. Free range parenting. Wasn't that what we called childhood? And now they have to pass laws to allow parents to let their kids play without parents hovering over them? What about those parents who are judged and ridiculed for letting their kids play without supervision? Isn't that one of the main issues, though? Why do we care what someone else thinks about our parenting style and why in the world does everyone think they should be commenting about what other parents do and then tell them how wrong they are? And these mamas are mean, y'all! I've read some of these situations on a mom FB group and I am so glad I did not have the internet when I was raising my girls. I believe some of these moms would come to blows if they ever saw each other in person. Sheesh. 

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Monday, May 7, 2018

If It's Broken, Keep It

Do you ever keep old, broken items? I do keep some and I'd love to tell y'all it all depends on the item and whether or not it can be repaired but that's not necessarily true. I do not keep broken items for parts or to hope that, one day, it can be repaired or just to say I have it or because I'm too lazy to toss it. That drives me insane. But I have been known to keep broken items for no other than sentimental reasons...

  • but it was Grandmother's
  • but it reminds me of when I was a kid
  • it belonged to insert-daughter's-name-here
  • I used that when insert-special-event-here
  • insert-loved-ones-name-here brought me that back from  insert-pace-here
Yeah, I will keep things broken or not purely for reasons like those. I am a sentimental fool. 

I have kept Christmas ornaments that have fallen off the tree and broken just enough that I can apply a dab of super glue to put it back together but I've also kept ornaments for which I lost the broken piece because it belonged to my grandmother or one of the lovelies or reminded me of an ornament from my childhood. But I want credit for not keeping any that fall and shatter beyond repair. Ha! Seriously, I want credit for that. 

I'll also take some credit for not keeping broken glasses or cups because who drinks from broken glasses or cups? The thing that causes me to SMH is I might have repaired some enough to place it on a shelf and use as a reminder of some sentimental event or loved one. And as a dust catcher. 

Somehow one of the girl's Christening gowns never made it to a preservation box and it is looking rough to say the least. Have a tossed it? Nope. There is no way I can toss that thing. If nothing else, the quilter sister can use it for my next quilt. #ahem. 

Do I toss the basket full of toys Tucker never plays with because he's a one toy dog? Nope. I think about donating them and then I think about how I might need to look at them one day when my pup crosses the bridge which is ridiculous but that's how my mind works or fails me, whichever. 

Have I tossed or donated toys the grandkiddos have outgrown? Nope.
Are there broken toys or toys with missing pieces in there? Yep.

I really do not like clutter and I have a small house so keeping broken items around isn't the best idea but I do it anyway.

I promise I am not a hoarder I'm a keeper of sentiment. It took me nearly 30 years to purge the attic but most of that stuff is GONE! There isn't stuff everywhere around here and everything has a place and mostly stays in it's place unless Bug and/or Baby R have been over but that's a grandkid/grandparent thing which means it doesn't count. #amiright? 

And then there's this:

I Will Keep Broken Things

I will keep
The big clay
With raised
Of their


I will keep
The old
To my

By Mississippi
A jagged
In its sturdy

I will keep
The memory

I will keep
In my house

On which
I will

Their beauty

I will keep
It is now

I will keep

Thank you 
So much! 

I will keep

I will keep


I will keep

Alice Walker 

How many of Y'all keep broken things?

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