Saturday, June 4, 2016

Hey! I'm a Trend!

Did y'all know that grandparents providing daycare for their grandchildren is a trend???? I had no idea. I thought this was something everyone who can, does. The newness of this escapes me. Perhaps it's just because, in my family, this is what we do. We 'do' for family.

There is a magazine, of sorts, that is sent out to the schools to be distributed among parents called, Lowcountry Parent. The June issue offers an article about grandparents providing daycare for their grandchildren. I suppose the reason this is being called a 'trend' is because of the increase in numbers rather than the newness of it since there is nothing new about taking care of your grandchildren if you can or need to do so.

The article, "Second Time Around" (is that really what this is? I thought that meant you are taking on a grandchild in the role of parent instead of grandparent but they didn't ask me, Ha!) mentions the ups and downs of grandparents taking care of grandchildren. The author only lists three of the ups that would be included on my way longer list but the downs are what interested me.

One grandmother states that the downside is adhering to the rules her daughter has set up for her granddaughter. A second one tells that the downside for her is restricting how much she gives into her grandchildren's wants. The third and final grandmother, the only one who truly falls correctly into the title, has taken on the role of parent for her grandson (I'm not going to go into this situation in this post but, these grandparents are truly amazing.) 

That's it? That's all you've got? Let me tell you, my oldest daughter is a nanny. It only took me 40 minutes with one of her charges, an adorable 4-month-old girl, to realize the truth of why children are given to young people and asked: 

What in the hell have I gotten myself into? 

This is going to take some preparation and a call to reality, people. Just off the top of my head--
  1. I need to get in shape before the baby comes. In July. Uh oh doesn't even begin to cover it. Not because I care what other people think but because I need to be able to keep up the pace of a little one. Ok, I'll need to be able to get up OFF the floor after I've gotten down.   
  2. I need to get rid of my personal, daily agendas that I welcomed back so enthusiastically when the nest emptied out. Crap.
  3. I've got to remember to be calm and peaceful around the baby. Holy Crap.
  4. The house needs to be baby proofed. And it needs to be done even better than when I was young and could get to a daughter quickly. Goodbye, everything being left in convenient locations.
  5. My days will not be my own even though I am not going to a job every day. I will be owned by an infant. This could, in all honesty, go either way.
  6. Daytime binge watching on Netflix and Hulu of all those series I was looking forward to starting is not going to happen. I doubt the shows I watch are little kid appropriate. Stay up and binge watch at night? Nope. My age won't allow that when I have to get up and care for the sweetest grandchild EVER.
  7. That diaper smell. Nothing will prepare me for that.  
  8. All that time I thought I'd enjoy sitting down and relaxing on the deck with coffee or a smoothie, my camera and a book? Get over it. Babies keep people busy.
  9. I have to learn how to do things quickly all over again. Just as I was beginning to enjoy taking my time.
  10. I must realize that I am not as young as I once was.
Now, all that being said, it is truly an honor to be allowed the special privilege of caring for Baby M. Yes, I need to wake up to some realities, sooner than later, but it will all be worth it to see that sweet little face every day and not have to worry about the who and what in a daycare.

Ok y'all, what did I leave out?  


  1. Good Morning Pam,
    Well, all of what you said is true. After a month of having all nine of mine here. I can tell you this isn't even the half of it. Personal space and nothing is as it seems. :) I think though, having one to yourself will be absolute bliss. Just the sweet baby smell and the little body in your arms makes all of that other stuff seem just not important. I think you are in for the biggest treat of your life. Because this time around, those things that seemed to matter when we were Mom's don't when you have your grand children. Having babies in the house, was totally more exciting that the binge watching of Netflix I thought I couldn't live with out too. :) Its almost here!!! You will be the perfect grandma in every way.

    1. All of them?! WOW!That must have been crazy in all the good ways. :) Oh yes! That baby smell. I do love the way babies smell. Most of the time. LOL I hope I will be a good grandma. I have some big shoes to fill in that role. It'll be nice to get back in the habit of visiting blogs too. Yours, especially. :)

  2. You will have to stop using the word "crap" and especially "holy crap" because, as you will soon be reminded, there is nothing 'holy' with crap! ��
    The baby stage is the easy part, wait until the mobile stage....I'm tired just thinking about it!

    But seriously, if I could I would hop on this trend wagon in a second. Spending time with My 2 granddaughters is way better than Netflix, coffee, reading, taking your time or sleeping.....well maybe not sleeping! Enjoy!!!!!

    1. Trust me, that is cleaned up language usage. LOL Exhaustion of the best kind is what I'm hoping. :) Of course spending time with grands is better than all of that. The habits will gladly be put aside and I can't think of a better reason to do so. It won't be long now!

  3. I guess with all the trending of adult children moving back home that child care would be the next trend in line! Actually my sister did that for her grandchildren 20 years ago! I have a friend who watched her grandson while her daughter worked but once evening came (since they lived in the same house) she would have nothing to to with him. It was her daughter's turn to be a mom!!! It is going to be awesome and I would love to be in your shoes right now.

    1. We've always done that too. My grandmother took care of me while my parents worked. It's just what we did. I can't believe they see it as a trend now. Just like they think stay at home moms are a trend. Good grief. You can come over here anytime and be grandma by blogging extension. :)

  4. I have no experience with babies, so I can't speak to this at all except to say it makes me tired just thinking about it. Babies are easier (I would think) than when they start crawling and then walking and start asking "why" all the time.... But oh what joy!! :)

    1. Tired is exactly what I'll be. But a good tired. I hope. LOL Yep, once she becomes mobile, we may have to rethink this whole thing. :)

  5. Trends and the people that study them - escapes me.
    "remember to be calm and peaceful" - Don't have a problem around the infants but I have found myself getting a bit uneasy (low level angry?) with a preschooler grandchild.


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